Well, here we are. 2009 is about to come to a close. I am ready to wrap it up, along with this story. Mr. R and I are still together and he continues to amaze me every single day. It hasn’t always been easy, but once I decided that I deserved to be loved by him and feel happy, it’s been wonderful. Oddly, I owe a lot of it to my cousin’s death. Losing him put so many things in perspective for me regarding where my life was headed, what I wanted out of it, and who really loved me. It was a serious wake-up call for me and one that I have not taken lightly. Mr. R stayed with me through all of it and never blinked twice or thought about leaving. He has been my rock, my constant, my joy and the greatest gift I could have ever asked for.
Yes, MNS tried with all of his might to ruin things between Mr. R and I over the course of our relationship but the good news is, for the first time ever, I didn’t let him. Even when he left his wife. Even when he begged for me by his side and cried on my shoulder telling me how much he loved me and couldn’t live without me. I saw MNS a month or two ago and it was pretty much terrible. He promised me everything I had ever thought I wanted from him. We laughed, we cried, we hugged. And then I told him that his love was ruining me and that he had to let me go. He said he didn’t know how. At that point I told him not to contact me again unless he could figure out how because friends was all we could ever be from this point on. He sent me a few messages after that asking if I was sure that I wanted him to leave me alone. He told me he would respect my wishes and do whatever was easiest for me but that he would still call me every day in his head and tell me he loved me, and he hoped that didn’t constitute stalking. He said he would always love me and be sorry that he screwed things up and I deserved all the happiness in world. He wished that he was still my happiness. The last email I received from him said “I still believe that we will be great together someday”. I never answered him. I will always love MNS and wonder how he is. But he’s not my dream guy. I found that in Mr. R and I’m glad that Mr. R is Mr. Right for me and not somebody else.
Oh, I suppose I should touch on MOB, too. He’s become one of my closest friends over the years. There is no doubt in my mind that if I ever got in a bind, MOB would be there to save me. He’s finally found someone and I’m so excited for him. Told me he hasn’t felt this way about anyone since me. I figure she must be pretty cool then. The night he was going to tell her he loved her he called me first and asked if I had any advice. “Simple. Just love her like I know you can.” He reiterated to me that I would always be his true love and a part of me felt like he was asking permission to give his heart to her. I, of course, told him to do it and to do it well, as I only wanted his happiness. He broke down crying on the phone and said he had to go. I received the following email minutes later:
Boo-
I hope you can forgive me for all the wrong I’ve ever done to you. You were the best thing that ever happened to me and I will never forget that! If you ever need me, I mean EVER, I’m there for you babe. I love you so much. I can’t even put it into words. I’m so sorry. Please forgive me. I was young and stupid, but that’s no excuse! Nothing can make up for the way I treated you. You will always be my one true love and I thank you for loving me and making me a better man.
Mob
So where does that leave The Player? Well, retired, I guess. Mr. R and I are planning a wedding in the fall. I cannot wait to start our lives together and spend every day showing him how honored and lucky I feel that he chose me and stuck by my side when I had no idea what the hell I was doing.
Much love,
The Player
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